Well, if it's any consolation: my kids are teenagers, so are fully autonomous (I have to make sure they get out of bed and eat something, but that's about it),

Well, if it's any consolation: my kids are teenagers, so are fully autonomous (I have to make sure they get out of bed and eat something, but that's about it), but I have many, many co-workers who are in the same position as you. I, and from what I can tell everybody else where I work, am sympathetic to the difficult position people like you are in, and are doing our best to pick up some of the slack when and where we can.