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I fully agree with Blake's comment: "I am of a mixed mind about this. Some of the most brilliant people I know are not ‘happy’ people, and yet I value their co

I fully agree with Blake's comment: "I am of a mixed mind about this. Some of the most brilliant people I know are not ‘happy’ people, and yet I value their company and opinions more than people in general. Infact I often find that people who are always positive are usually faking it. And I hate fake personalities vastly more than cynics or pessimists."

barrkel 16y ago
There is definitely a lack of authenticity when someone is consciously and deliberately choosing to reframe an event so they can have a more positive reaction to it. The other trap you can fall into is playing this surface stuff like it's a game, and not tackling the underlying issues, rather than merely reframing them. The determined feeling of tackling a problem doesn't resemble happiness - it happens with more of a furrowed brow - but I don't think it's "unhappiness" either, which I would put alongside apathy in similarity.
sliverstorm 16y ago
Firstly, ...more than people in general? All this tells us is he values the company of brilliant people, not that he values their company more than happy people. It is true, there are fake happy people. But if you've never met one of those bubbly laughing folks who seem high on life, or one of those charismatic people who's smile fills you with warmth, I am truly sorry for you. Whether or not they are secretly dying inside, they are true gems to be around.