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If the pretty people don't want an ugly guy like me around, then why would an ugly guy like me want to hang out with those pretty people? It seems like a "noth
by catalogia 7y ago
If the pretty people don't want an ugly guy like me around, then why would an ugly guy like me want to hang out with those pretty people? It seems like a "nothing of value was lost" situation. I'd rather hang out with people that enjoy my presence.
What would shaming them for this accomplish? Is the idea to shame them so much that they pretend to like ugly people like me? What would be the point of that?
- afterburner 7y agoWhy would you not shame them? Shaming is free and legally inconsequential. You are essentially saying no one has the right to complain.
- catalogia 7y agoI don't shame people unless I think it will accomplish something productive. I wouldn't think of denying that you have the right to shame people for whatever reason you like, but I choose not to do it myself unless I see a good reason for it.
- afterburner 7y agoTo affect their behaviour, obviously. To provide negative feedback.
- catalogia 7y agoSo back to my question: "What would shaming them for this accomplish? Is the idea to shame them so much that they pretend to like ugly people like me? What would be the point of that?" What effect on their behavior do you hope to accomplish by shaming pretty people for not wanting to hang out with ugly people? I'm not seeing a productive reason to do this.
- v64 7y agoThat only works on people who aren't shameless and are willing to reevaluate their own behavior based on external criticism. Sometimes you have to pick your battles.
- dx87 7y agoIt costs your time and energy. There must be a better use of your time than trying to shame nightclubs.
- afterburner 7y agoI'm responding to people who are using their time and energy saying they shouldn't be shamed. I wonder why they're wasting their energy with counter-shaming?
- catalogia 7y agoThat user doesn't speak for me; my time is not so valuable today, which is why I thought to spend some of it casually chatting about a social media website I never had any intention of using. It was never my intention to shame you, nor to deny your right to shame others. If you feel as though I've tried to shame you, then I apologize for the miscommunication.
- enneff 7y agoNot sure why you’re being downvoted here. Everyone knows that there are exclusive cliques and there always will be. If you desperately want to be part of a group that doesn’t want you, then that’s your problem to overcome.
- leereeves 7y ago> If you desperately want to be part of a group that doesn’t want you, then that’s your problem to overcome. Tell that to the black people who demanded the right to eat in "white" restaurants.
- rrdharan 7y agoWow, so now the nightclub line is a civil rights issue? This is an incredibly ignorant and offensive analogy.
- leereeves 7y agoThe restaurant counter was one of the first civil rights issues. Not that different from a nightclub. What's the real difference here? That effectively segregating ugly people is more acceptable than segregating by skin color? The ignorance here is among those who don't understand that people are suffering from this discrimation, and the offense is coming from people who justify and defend it. Nightclubs and TikTok aren't the most important examples of this, but for people who faced discrimination their entire lives, any victory would make life a little easier.
- kharak 7y agoSo no group can select their members anymore? Nonsense. A model agency will continue to hire exclusively beautiful people. Top tier universities will remain a club for well doers in the education system. My group of friends remains closed to most everyone else and so does yours. Exclusivity is a necessity for society.
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