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> I live an SRO. I don't have a kitchen. I currently don't have a fridge. I have a small grill and some shelving to store stuff. I hesitate to ask about the si

by ebg13 7y ago

> I live an SRO. I don't have a kitchen. I currently don't have a fridge. I have a small grill and some shelving to store stuff. I hesitate to ask about the size of the space you have available, but in Paris it's pretty common to find one room apartments that are only 9 square meters. Typically you put a one or two top induction or electric stove (portable ones are actually very cheap and work well) above a minifridge and a hutch for dishes/spices with a sink about the size of your hands.

DoreenMichele 7y ago
I hesitate to ask about the size of the space you have available Thank you for both your concern and for being respectful. I don't wish to get into the details of my living space in this discussion.
- code_duck 7y ago
  You just started your comment by listing details of your living situation, however.
  - DoreenMichele 7y ago
    This is true. That doesn't make it an invitation for the entire world to grill me about the specifics of my life. Previous opinion piece by me if people really want to know what I think about how I'm allowed to mention a thing about my life and then decline to answer invasive personal questions: https://witnesstodestruction.blogspot.com/p/a-pragmatic-approach-to-thorny-people.html https://witnesstodestruction.blogspot.com/p/a-pragmatic-appr...
    - code_duck 7y ago
      It's rather self-victimizing to refer to what has occurred here as someone "grilling" you about the specifics of your life or being invasive. If you don't want to discuss your apartment size, then I suggest to stop listing the contents and layout. It doesn't appear to me that others have a particular interest in your living specifics. Myself I would find none of this to be invasive, offensive, threatening, or even very personal. As someone with extended multiple illnesses I do not have a secure living situation and I'm entirely unconcerned what fairly anonymous people know or think about it.
  - Pfhreak 7y ago
    The polite response to "I'm not comfortable discussing in more detail" is "OK, sounds good."
    - code_duck 7y ago
      I wasn't previously part of the discussion, so it would be strange for me to post that.

by ebg13 7y ago

DoreenMichele 7y ago

I hesitate to ask about the size of the space you have available Thank you for both your concern and for being respectful. I don't wish to get into the details of my living space in this discussion.

code_duck 7y ago
You just started your comment by listing details of your living situation, however.
- DoreenMichele 7y ago
  This is true. That doesn't make it an invitation for the entire world to grill me about the specifics of my life. Previous opinion piece by me if people really want to know what I think about how I'm allowed to mention a thing about my life and then decline to answer invasive personal questions: https://witnesstodestruction.blogspot.com/p/a-pragmatic-approach-to-thorny-people.html https://witnesstodestruction.blogspot.com/p/a-pragmatic-appr...
  - code_duck 7y ago
    It's rather self-victimizing to refer to what has occurred here as someone "grilling" you about the specifics of your life or being invasive. If you don't want to discuss your apartment size, then I suggest to stop listing the contents and layout. It doesn't appear to me that others have a particular interest in your living specifics. Myself I would find none of this to be invasive, offensive, threatening, or even very personal. As someone with extended multiple illnesses I do not have a secure living situation and I'm entirely unconcerned what fairly anonymous people know or think about it.
- Pfhreak 7y ago
  The polite response to "I'm not comfortable discussing in more detail" is "OK, sounds good."
  - code_duck 7y ago
    I wasn't previously part of the discussion, so it would be strange for me to post that.