> But do any people who don't dive in and try things succeed? Don't we all have some high school friend who didn't really work hard on anything and got pretty

> But do any people who don't dive in and try things succeed? Don't we all have some high school friend who didn't really work hard on anything and got pretty high scores on everything, somehow got offered a good job by some friend, smoked weed, went to parties, never worried much and seems to be quite successful or at least quite happy? I think that's the main problem with all these discussions about success and growth and stuff - it is all anecdotal evidence and nothing more. No real science here and it can hardly ever be.