I'm both very technical and very handy and my father was neither. My drive to learn both was a deep desire to know how things work. It took me a very long time

I'm both very technical and very handy and my father was neither. My drive to learn both was a deep desire to know how things work. It took me a very long time to figure out why, but after a lot of personal introspection I have discovered that is the root cause: a desire to know how everything and everyone works. It's how I navigate the world, through the understanding of how it works. By the way, between 'people', 'computers' and 'the trades', it's 'people' who have been the trickiest. When someone is impressed at what I do, I used to say "computers are easy its people who are hard". The best I can surmise is that when you are a kid you get this sort of 'base programming' that is really, REALLY fucking hard to change. Even when you recognize it and you want to change it, whew, it's a mountain to climb. That's why they say "people don't change" because its so hard. If your dad taught you something was 'not your cup of tea' then it is very hard to change that thought in your head. I am sure there is an evolutionary reason for this because it does not make logical sense to keep doing something well after you know it's not what you want to do. I do not have the patience to deal with people for very long periods of time. I wish I could change that, I have tried to change it. However, my dad taught me at a very young age that it's normal and very, very common to dislike someone; because of how much I disliked him. He treated me like I was in the way. A computer in my bedroom literally saved my life. My brother didn't hate my dad because my dad liked my brother. So he had a completely different childhood in the same exact household. And guess what: my brother is a people person (and also not handy or technical). So, you have to play the hand you are dealt. Someone always has it worse off than you. Just remember your childhood when you are raising your own kids. Treat those kids with understanding and both actually listen and talk to them. Don't tranquilize them with fucking videos. Read books, listen to music and show them that life is happy and normal and routine and they can do anything day after day. When they grow up, all they will know is that life is happy and normal and routine and they can do anything. A persons base programming is a bitch to change; make it a good one!