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Today I was listening to an 'inspirational' talk about someone who didn't 'have a plan' in life and instead jumped to whatever she felt like doing for the last
by angarg12 7y ago
Today I was listening to an 'inspirational' talk about someone who didn't 'have a plan' in life and instead jumped to whatever she felt like doing for the last few years, and ended up being successful and happy.
The talk was a variation of 'do what you love and you will be successful' and this woman used her own experience as proof. However this contrast with my own personal experience.
I spent the last few years of my life wearing many hats and jumping from role to role based on opportunities and whatever seemed exciting at that time. As such, now I feel stuck and lagging behind on my career. One of my mentors gave me as advice to stop swinging around and instead focus my attention in one set of skills. I can't help but wonder where I would be now if I had focus from the last 5 years instead of chasing 'whatever excited me'.
In that sense, those inspirational talks are survivorship bias in action, giving advice from the lens 'these actions made me successful' instead of 'I became successful DESPITE these actions'.
- adriand 7y ago> I can't help but wonder where I would be now if I had focus from the last 5 years instead of chasing 'whatever excited me'. The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The next best time is now. Stop wondering about what might have been and start thinking about what can be! So long as you have your health, the future brims with possibilities. If now is the time for focused attention on hard things, then make the time for that, focus, and improve your abilities. Judging by some of your past comments, you have successfully reinvented yourself before. You're smart and experienced. Have fun with uncertainty and try to find adventure in your life once again. (I know you didn't ask for this advice—truth be told, I think it's advice I'm giving myself, because I too find myself at a crossroads. Good luck!)