> Most people who have ever talked to me in a professional setting would probably describe me as "nice". > I don't give two flying fucks if people like me. I'm

> Most people who have ever talked to me in a professional setting would probably describe me as "nice". > I don't give two flying fucks if people like me. I'm not trying to be friendly or amicable. This is exactly the point of my comments above and take on this post. People say you’re ‘nice’, but maybe you don’t see ‘nice’ as equating to wanting other people to like you—to be friends. And so you reject the label. However, if you accept the nice distinction the OP is trying to make, then you would have to conclude people’s description of you as ‘nice’ May not be their intention. Especially if your interactions with them have no being ‘friends’ content. That’s interesting to me. I like conversations of language. For example—I find people who comment ‘I thought you meant X’, and I ask myself if they really ‘thought’ about my intended meaning. I question if people are simply reacting to the connotation of the words as they received the message. In this context I would question, when some says ‘I thought...X’, if they ‘thought’ about X, or if they simply ‘imagined’ the intended meaning. And what does it matter? As much as anything anyone says can be said to have true intention and originate from symmetrical information, someone who just spouts off the first thing that comes to their mind could be considered ‘careless’ or full of $h#t. However, taking a step back and asking if someone is just reacting, jumping to conclusions or imagining the state of affairs, gives you a chance to ask for clarification. And if it’s not forthcoming, then maybe people are just talking $#it