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I'm afraid I feel my level of sympathy would be 100% correlated with how mandatory the heels are for your friend :-/ On aside, I'm also (genuinely, not snarkil

I'm afraid I feel my level of sympathy would be 100% correlated with how mandatory the heels are for your friend :-/ On aside, I'm also (genuinely, not snarkily) curious to understand the "Naturally" part in front of "wearing high heels". Don't get me wrong - I personally think they're a fabulously attractive if completely impractical article of clothing, but it feels like in many places in the world they are far from the norm/regular/Natural assumption.

nikofeyn 7y ago
> I'm afraid I feel my level of sympathy would be 100% correlated with how mandatory the heels are for your friend :-/ that's a rather sexist position. someone's wardrobe, if in the entirely reasonable range in which high heels are, should not be dictated by someone else's preferences, particular a boss.
- plorntus 7y ago
  I mean it's not 100% clear cut like that. Has the person told the boss that it is uncomfortable? They could easily just be oblivious to the problem. Secondly, if it's not mandatory there has to be a point where you decide to do what's best for you. For example, it gets really hot outside where I live in the summer but my office puts the AC at ridiculously low temperatures. For me that means I can't wear shorts in the office because it gets too cold. I wouldn't wear shorts every day and act all surprised about it when nothing has changed nor think anything is sexist or even a personal attack on me.
- mcv 7y ago
  If your work is likely to involve walks, I'd wear shoes that are comfortable to walk in. For some, that might include high heels, for others not. A bigger issue might be that such walking meetings may exclude some disabled employees.
- chairmanwow1 7y ago
  I’m confused by this comment. If this person knows they are going on walking meetings I don’t understand why they wouldn’t want to bring shoes to walk in. If they want to wear high heels regardless of this knowledge and have no requirement to wear high heels, I feel no sympathy.
  - mcv 7y ago
    On the other hand, if they're required to attend walking meetings in footwear not suitable for walking, then that's a serious labour conditions issue.

nikofeyn 7y ago

> I'm afraid I feel my level of sympathy would be 100% correlated with how mandatory the heels are for your friend :-/ that's a rather sexist position. someone's wardrobe, if in the entirely reasonable range in which high heels are, should not be dictated by someone else's preferences, particular a boss.

plorntus 7y ago
I mean it's not 100% clear cut like that. Has the person told the boss that it is uncomfortable? They could easily just be oblivious to the problem. Secondly, if it's not mandatory there has to be a point where you decide to do what's best for you. For example, it gets really hot outside where I live in the summer but my office puts the AC at ridiculously low temperatures. For me that means I can't wear shorts in the office because it gets too cold. I wouldn't wear shorts every day and act all surprised about it when nothing has changed nor think anything is sexist or even a personal attack on me.
mcv 7y ago
If your work is likely to involve walks, I'd wear shoes that are comfortable to walk in. For some, that might include high heels, for others not. A bigger issue might be that such walking meetings may exclude some disabled employees.
chairmanwow1 7y ago
I’m confused by this comment. If this person knows they are going on walking meetings I don’t understand why they wouldn’t want to bring shoes to walk in. If they want to wear high heels regardless of this knowledge and have no requirement to wear high heels, I feel no sympathy.
- mcv 7y ago
  On the other hand, if they're required to attend walking meetings in footwear not suitable for walking, then that's a serious labour conditions issue.