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Not who you replied to, but you described me to a T. Problem is - I have no idea what to do about it. It's so hard to do anything fun in my free time because

Not who you replied to, but you described me to a T. Problem is - I have no idea what to do about it. It's so hard to do anything fun in my free time because the moment I think about doing / starting something, goal oriented t thoughts follow, which means stress follows. I wish I could just go into "kick the can" mode whenever I wanted and turn off the part of my brain that wants to see results, progress, and checkmarks.

CptFribble 7y ago
It takes practice like anything else, but one trick I found is to pick something that you definitely won't ever want to make money or a career from. Maybe you have absolutely no desire to be a painter or artist. Pick up a pencil and just doodle for 30 minutes. Get some cheap paint and a small canvas on your way home from work and just spend an hour going for it. Maybe you've always wanted to try fencing. Find a place and take a couple classes just to see what it's like. I'm also like that, anything I start as a side project almost immediately becomes "if I don't change the world with this, why am I wasting my time?" So I had to start doing things that I know will never amount to anything, and specifically tell myself "This will never matter." When you can accept that you're spending a little time on something that's just for its own sake, then you've done it - you're experiencing an honest-to-goodness leisure activity.
- 9588 7y ago
  i created and abandoned a project gathering developers not to do anything. people odly understood :) there was going to be a yearly newsletter that was never send out and participants were free to do other equally unimportant things together using the name of the org (that was never picked) overal it was a hilarious experience. most of the work was in assuring people they would not be contacted for anything.

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Not who you replied to, but you described me to a T. Problem is - I have no idea what to do about it. It's so hard to do anything fun in my free time because

by jlelonm 7y ago

CptFribble 7y ago
It takes practice like anything else, but one trick I found is to pick something that you definitely won't ever want to make money or a career from. Maybe you have absolutely no desire to be a painter or artist. Pick up a pencil and just doodle for 30 minutes. Get some cheap paint and a small canvas on your way home from work and just spend an hour going for it. Maybe you've always wanted to try fencing. Find a place and take a couple classes just to see what it's like. I'm also like that, anything I start as a side project almost immediately becomes "if I don't change the world with this, why am I wasting my time?" So I had to start doing things that I know will never amount to anything, and specifically tell myself "This will never matter." When you can accept that you're spending a little time on something that's just for its own sake, then you've done it - you're experiencing an honest-to-goodness leisure activity.
- 9588 7y ago
  i created and abandoned a project gathering developers not to do anything. people odly understood :) there was going to be a yearly newsletter that was never send out and participants were free to do other equally unimportant things together using the name of the org (that was never picked) overal it was a hilarious experience. most of the work was in assuring people they would not be contacted for anything.