Depending on the seriousness of the "respect violation", I believe there are plenty of local colleges where one can get a degree in computer science or some oth

Depending on the seriousness of the "respect violation", I believe there are plenty of local colleges where one can get a degree in computer science or some other related major, and from there get a job in programming. If what you did is actually just ask a woman out in an email, this would not be a dealbreaker for most colleges. Not sure what country you're in, but there are also definitely in the U.S. employers who will hire a programmer that does not have a degree (although some won't), as long as you can demonstrate that you can program.