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You have to grow thick skin. People will try to bring you down mentally. Doesn't even matter if you are famous, the world is full of people that will try to put

by z3t4 7y ago

You have to grow thick skin. People will try to bring you down mentally. Doesn't even matter if you are famous, the world is full of people that will try to put themselves above you so that they can feel better about themselves. Its just that the more ppl you talk to the more of those you will interact with. Get moderators that will moderate public forums ( control your communication channels). Dont share stuff about your private life. Everything you say can and will be used against you.

DoreenMichele 7y ago
My skin is pretty thick. "Don't share stuff about your private life." is probably the more pertinent bit of advice. I think it's not obvious to women that men share less of such info "in public" because they often share such info with women, even women they barely know. I am often appalled at the degree to which total strangers overshare with me and just immediately trust me with info I really shouldn't be getting. It took me an overly long time to conclude this is actually a behavior that's extremely problematic to be on the receiving end of. It helps keep women trapped in a private role (which people expect them to play for free) and helps keep them out of a public role (ie a role you would pay them money for). In essence, people want me to be a shoulder to cry on and it actively prevents me from being taken seriously. They want me to play a wife or mom role and they expect to get that from me completely for free. I'm supposed to care out of the goodness of my heart. It doesn't open doors for me to be trustworthy in that fashion. It closes them. It's an expectation of slave labor and it's nothing short of abusive treatment, especially when you consider I was also treated this way while literally homeless and going hungry. That assumption that moms care for "free" is really an assumption that her husband makes good money and is providing for her. If you aren't paying my bills or otherwise taking care of me in some kind of meaningful fashion, expecting me to "care" about you while you don't give a damn about my welfare and won't help me establish an adequate income is just shitty behavior. And it's rampant. It's pretty much everywhere and from almost everyone. It's appalling. Anyway, I've gotten better about figuring out how and where to draw that line (between public and private) and it's made life suck less. Onward and upward and all that. Edit: It's late. I'm tired. I really meant to also make the point that women being deterred by ugliness on the internet is often a genuine safety concern and not them simply being thin skinned. This is a real problem for women you that don't typically see for men.

by z3t4 7y ago

DoreenMichele 7y ago

My skin is pretty thick. "Don't share stuff about your private life." is probably the more pertinent bit of advice. I think it's not obvious to women that men share less of such info "in public" because they often share such info with women, even women they barely know. I am often appalled at the degree to which total strangers overshare with me and just immediately trust me with info I really shouldn't be getting. It took me an overly long time to conclude this is actually a behavior that's extremely problematic to be on the receiving end of. It helps keep women trapped in a private role (which people expect them to play for free) and helps keep them out of a public role (ie a role you would pay them money for). In essence, people want me to be a shoulder to cry on and it actively prevents me from being taken seriously. They want me to play a wife or mom role and they expect to get that from me completely for free. I'm supposed to care out of the goodness of my heart. It doesn't open doors for me to be trustworthy in that fashion. It closes them. It's an expectation of slave labor and it's nothing short of abusive treatment, especially when you consider I was also treated this way while literally homeless and going hungry. That assumption that moms care for "free" is really an assumption that her husband makes good money and is providing for her. If you aren't paying my bills or otherwise taking care of me in some kind of meaningful fashion, expecting me to "care" about you while you don't give a damn about my welfare and won't help me establish an adequate income is just shitty behavior. And it's rampant. It's pretty much everywhere and from almost everyone. It's appalling. Anyway, I've gotten better about figuring out how and where to draw that line (between public and private) and it's made life suck less. Onward and upward and all that. Edit: It's late. I'm tired. I really meant to also make the point that women being deterred by ugliness on the internet is often a genuine safety concern and not them simply being thin skinned. This is a real problem for women you that don't typically see for men.