> IME it's almost impossible to tell whether someone is a right person until you've been together several years. I disagree. My wife and I got married the year

> IME it's almost impossible to tell whether someone is a right person until you've been together several years. I disagree. My wife and I got married the year we met, engaged the first month we met. We had an instant connection of lust and similar interests. After two dates, I invited her to go overseas w/ me for two months. We knew we'd either hate or love each other by the end of it. It took 1 week for us to realize we were deeply in love. We got engaged 2 weeks later and married the same year. This was all after I had given up on finding anyone. You need to get to know yourself and what you want, then find someone that wants the same things. Straight up talk to them about the important things the first date. The important points for us were the things that had caused past relationship issues. Weed friendly, really sexual, introverted, dark humor, knows depression, same political belief, same religious belief. Yes it's good to be able to compromise, but ideally you don't want to. > And even more unfortunately, your perfect mate can turn into an evil menace right before your eyes. Been there. We know that neither of us could take that. We would kill ourselves if we didn't have each other, so propping each other up is actually propping ourselves up. Some might call that an unhealthy dependence, I call it being soulmates.