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>Most of these tweets are just "congrats to XYZ! So proud to be part of this success as one of the early funders!". This is a matter of taste, but I find this

>Most of these tweets are just "congrats to XYZ! So proud to be part of this success as one of the early funders!". This is a matter of taste, but I find this to be vastly superior: "Contragts to XYZ!", and someone from XYZ may or may not thank the funders with a follow up. That is, there is no implicit association or expectation of getting something in return when you congratulate someone. >I'd be straightforward when talking to friends about how well I was doing. If you are talking to people in person, that has a different context from broadcasting to the world.

wutbrodo 7y ago
> If you are talking to people in person, that has a different context from broadcasting to the world. If anything, I'd expect mild self-promotion to be _more_ acceptable on the latter, since it serves as both a vehicle for personal and professional communication. Ie, "so proud to have been nominated for the [some award] for [book that I wrote]" is a pretty normal tweet on Twitter, and there's nothing especially wrong with it or mockable about it.
- bubblethink 7y ago
  It's a matter of taste and ultimately subjective. The camp that disagrees with this approach lumps these sorts of behaviours as seeking validation or neediness, particularly in the broadcast mode. Show, don't tell and all that. In the 1-1 mode, it's passable as long as there is some relationship and context where this exchange would make sense.
  - wutbrodo 7y ago
    > The camp that disagrees with this approach lumps these sorts of behaviours as seeking validation or neediness, particularly in the broadcast mode. Show, don't tell and all that. In the 1-1 mode, it's passable as long as there is some relationship and context where this exchange would make sense. Sure, I guess my point was that this matter of taste (seeing the expression of pride in one's achievements as "seeking validation or neediness" in a bad way) is precisely the toxic cultural current that I was describing. In my anecdotal experience, it's usually driven by a heaping dose of self-hatred being externalized onto others by dragging them down.

wutbrodo 7y ago

> If you are talking to people in person, that has a different context from broadcasting to the world. If anything, I'd expect mild self-promotion to be _more_ acceptable on the latter, since it serves as both a vehicle for personal and professional communication. Ie, "so proud to have been nominated for the [some award] for [book that I wrote]" is a pretty normal tweet on Twitter, and there's nothing especially wrong with it or mockable about it.

bubblethink 7y ago
It's a matter of taste and ultimately subjective. The camp that disagrees with this approach lumps these sorts of behaviours as seeking validation or neediness, particularly in the broadcast mode. Show, don't tell and all that. In the 1-1 mode, it's passable as long as there is some relationship and context where this exchange would make sense.
- wutbrodo 7y ago
  > The camp that disagrees with this approach lumps these sorts of behaviours as seeking validation or neediness, particularly in the broadcast mode. Show, don't tell and all that. In the 1-1 mode, it's passable as long as there is some relationship and context where this exchange would make sense. Sure, I guess my point was that this matter of taste (seeing the expression of pride in one's achievements as "seeking validation or neediness" in a bad way) is precisely the toxic cultural current that I was describing. In my anecdotal experience, it's usually driven by a heaping dose of self-hatred being externalized onto others by dragging them down.