> There's no reason he can't ask for a raise too. [...]. But some people find that too confrontational - getting a better offer is easier, in that case. Wait w

> There's no reason he can't ask for a raise too. [...]. But some people find that too confrontational - getting a better offer is easier, in that case. Wait what? That's an interesting take because I think the exact opposite. I find that showing up at your manager's desk with an offer in hand is way more confrontational than just asking for a raise. Asking for a raise is cheap, it takes 15 minutes. If it's denied you can start a conversation around goals, how to get there, etc. Showing up with an offer means that you already spent hours finding a new job and you're basically coming to the table with an ultimatum.