> > Focus on having a good time. The “conversion” shouldn’t be a match, it should be having a fun night out. > This is where you'll limit your audience. Unfort

> > Focus on having a good time. The “conversion” shouldn’t be a match, it should be having a fun night out. > This is where you'll limit your audience. Unfortunately, in my opinion, a lot of people today are timid about going out to meet strangers. This, to me, is a tragedy. About 4 years ago I figured out the secret to online dating, which was to have no expectations and just have a good time. I wish I could somehow convey to the many, many bitter men out there that this is the key. Go meet someone you don't think is "hot" but who turns out to be absolutely gorgeous and just takes lousy pictures. Go meet people who are so much fun you're attracted to them. Go meet people who you don't end up being attracted to but who can hold good conversations over a couple drinks and be ok with that. Here's why: when you aren't invested in the outcome, and are just along for the enjoyable ride, you become more attractive. Challenge yourself to meet up with people you are kind of "meh" about and you will surprise yourself.