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Self-disclosure seems like easy low-hanging fruit. I respectfully ended a relationship with a poly individual long before she did anything that I would have con

Self-disclosure seems like easy low-hanging fruit. I respectfully ended a relationship with a poly individual long before she did anything that I would have considered cheating. It became a question I asked on every first date, and I am now engaged to a mono individual. You might be surprised how many individual would openly admit that they are mono, poly, casual or what-have-you, provided that they are not discriminated for admitting it. I'm incompatible with non-mono sexualities and being open about that spectrum allows me to avoid "cheaters" and them to avoid "clingy." Apps can then strictly filter according to those preferences (some allow disclosure, all have fuzzy filtering at best). I don't think the core idea in the post would work, though. Scarcity would only be present in the app, genders that enjoy a natural abundance of choice would probably open the other apps after swiping left on everyone in this one.

paulddraper 7y ago
All apps already have "self-disclosure." That's the algorithmic match and the human match. I am X looking for Y, etc.
- zamalek 7y ago
  I've never encountered I am "mono" looking for "mono" and I've used many of them.
  - nwienert 7y ago
    Brb calling my monogamous dating app “mono a mono”
    - kubanczyk 7y ago
      It means "monkey to monkey" in spanish, so... good luck, I guess.
  - paulddraper 7y ago
    https://help.okcupid.com/article/59-how-to-use-match-search https://help.okcupid.com/article/59-how-to-use-match-search > Monogamy status And then of course every single dating site lets you write custom descriptions. (Though IMO it's fair to assume monogamy since that is the overwhelming majority. [1]) [1] https://www.npr.org/2019/02/18/695731314/the-new-sexual-revolution-polyamory-on-the-rise-listen https://www.npr.org/2019/02/18/695731314/the-new-sexual-revo...
    - zamalek 7y ago
      > Though IMO it's fair to assume monogamy since that is the overwhelming majority. My argument is that it is actually not (edit/evidence: the prevalence of cheaters), as identifying any other way is met with being a "cheater" or a "slut." Encouraging people to truthfully and shamelessly admit what they are will likely be better for everyone in the long run. Granted, this is a societal problem, but many apps have had an impact on society.

paulddraper 7y ago

All apps already have "self-disclosure." That's the algorithmic match and the human match. I am X looking for Y, etc.

zamalek 7y ago
I've never encountered I am "mono" looking for "mono" and I've used many of them.
- nwienert 7y ago
  Brb calling my monogamous dating app “mono a mono”
  - kubanczyk 7y ago
    It means "monkey to monkey" in spanish, so... good luck, I guess.
- paulddraper 7y ago
  https://help.okcupid.com/article/59-how-to-use-match-search https://help.okcupid.com/article/59-how-to-use-match-search > Monogamy status And then of course every single dating site lets you write custom descriptions. (Though IMO it's fair to assume monogamy since that is the overwhelming majority. [1]) [1] https://www.npr.org/2019/02/18/695731314/the-new-sexual-revolution-polyamory-on-the-rise-listen https://www.npr.org/2019/02/18/695731314/the-new-sexual-revo...
  - zamalek 7y ago
    > Though IMO it's fair to assume monogamy since that is the overwhelming majority. My argument is that it is actually not (edit/evidence: the prevalence of cheaters), as identifying any other way is met with being a "cheater" or a "slut." Encouraging people to truthfully and shamelessly admit what they are will likely be better for everyone in the long run. Granted, this is a societal problem, but many apps have had an impact on society.