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Both when dating and when buying used cars, I require an intermediary to introduce me, as otherwise I am not willing to trust in the owner/person directly. My s
by floatingatoll 7y ago
Both when dating and when buying used cars, I require an intermediary to introduce me, as otherwise I am not willing to trust in the owner/person directly. My safety is paramount and requiring a 'middleman' drastically reduces the chances of malicious behavior by the owner/person.
- wjessup 7y agoCould you please explain this line of reasoning? It's not immediately clear why a middleman reduces chances of malicious behavior. Do you think the risk of malicious behavior could be reduced through individual confidence, judgement or leadership in the same way or differently?
- lotsofpulp 7y agoBecause the middleman is not just any middleman, it's someone in your network, who is vested in you having a good experience so that you continue to be valuable to them and vice versa. The middleman will do some due diligence before recommending two people to each other.
- floatingatoll 7y agoIf my friend sets me up with a scam artist, they’re at risk of to losing a friend - and potentially be ostracized by their entire social network for it. So they’re a lot less likely to recommend a scam artist, because they have skin in the game. Same if they set me up on a date with their friend who ends up being abusive.
- heedlessly3 7y agoThis makes sense. Every person I have dated was via my social circle or someone we had mutual friends with. I don't date a complete stranger with zero connections.