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> While women in their mid-to-late 30s perceive a dwindling pool of prospective partners, men at this age perceive an “endless supply” of possible partners Pos

> While women in their mid-to-late 30s perceive a dwindling pool of prospective partners, men at this age perceive an “endless supply” of possible partners Possible? Maybe. Interested? Hardly.

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toomuchtodo 7y ago
That’s not what the data shows. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/201908/why-many-younger-women-prefer-older-men https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/2... https://www.theguardian.com/science/2003/mar/02/evolution.genetics https://www.theguardian.com/science/2003/mar/02/evolution.ge...
hombre_fatal 7y ago
Have you tried? I'm in my 30s having the easiest dating life and I can totally understand the results if that one study pointing out that men peak in attractiveness at like 36. If you aren't finding dates in your 30s, then I doubt you were ever successful with women, assuming you didn't just let yourself go.
- wwweston 7y ago
  > Have you tried? Not sure what other response is appropriate here other than "lol yes." > I doubt you were ever successful with women Arguably true, at least in that there doesn't seem to be some program of personal activity I can follow that reliably results in dates leading that lead to a relationship. Arguably false, in that periodically something just happens (sometimes through my efforts, more often not) and there's a strong connection and it grows into a months or years long relationship. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Not saying I find it impossible. I'm saying I find it so hard to relate to "an “endless supply” of possible partners" that I'm inclined to look on it pretty skeptically. If it were just me, then I'd consider the likelihood that I'm a bit of a niche good with some niche tastes, or I just need to work through some dating equivalent of _Cracking the Coding Interview_, but I know from conversations with my friends over the last 10 years that I'm far from the only one who's perceived their mid-to-late 30s dating life through a lens of non-abundance.
ulisesrmzroche 7y ago
Girls who’d never talk to me at 22 are stalking me at 32. You gotta work out tho
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- toomuchtodo 7y ago
  Lifting gains convert to dating gains in my experience. Property owner, stable job, financially secure, in shape in your 30s and you’re punching above most of the unpaired competition.

> While women in their mid-to-late 30s perceive a dwindling pool of prospective partners, men at this age perceive an “endless supply” of possible partners Possible? Maybe. Interested? Hardly.

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toomuchtodo 7y ago

That’s not what the data shows. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/201908/why-many-younger-women-prefer-older-men https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/why-bad-looks-good/2... https://www.theguardian.com/science/2003/mar/02/evolution.genetics https://www.theguardian.com/science/2003/mar/02/evolution.ge...

hombre_fatal 7y ago

Have you tried? I'm in my 30s having the easiest dating life and I can totally understand the results if that one study pointing out that men peak in attractiveness at like 36. If you aren't finding dates in your 30s, then I doubt you were ever successful with women, assuming you didn't just let yourself go.

wwweston 7y ago
> Have you tried? Not sure what other response is appropriate here other than "lol yes." > I doubt you were ever successful with women Arguably true, at least in that there doesn't seem to be some program of personal activity I can follow that reliably results in dates leading that lead to a relationship. Arguably false, in that periodically something just happens (sometimes through my efforts, more often not) and there's a strong connection and it grows into a months or years long relationship. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Not saying I find it impossible. I'm saying I find it so hard to relate to "an “endless supply” of possible partners" that I'm inclined to look on it pretty skeptically. If it were just me, then I'd consider the likelihood that I'm a bit of a niche good with some niche tastes, or I just need to work through some dating equivalent of _Cracking the Coding Interview_, but I know from conversations with my friends over the last 10 years that I'm far from the only one who's perceived their mid-to-late 30s dating life through a lens of non-abundance.

ulisesrmzroche 7y ago

Girls who’d never talk to me at 22 are stalking me at 32. You gotta work out tho

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toomuchtodo 7y ago
Lifting gains convert to dating gains in my experience. Property owner, stable job, financially secure, in shape in your 30s and you’re punching above most of the unpaired competition.