1) Praise kids for results. 2) When there's no success yet, recognize effort and praise progress toward the result. 3) Recognize smarts and talent in general

1) Praise kids for results. 2) When there's no success yet, recognize effort and praise progress toward the result. 3) Recognize smarts and talent in general for how they help get results. We should be encouraging, about intelligence, effort and results. But it's important to remember the goal (result), otherwise there's no clear focus.