"It's not about being right." This is the best advice to all sides. I have found in the past that the best way to convince people is not to try to "convince"

"It's not about being right." This is the best advice to all sides. I have found in the past that the best way to convince people is not to try to "convince" them that my "view" is correct but to listen to their views. I call this being a "Cardboard engineer". It does not work for everyone.