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I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any m

I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.) I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point.

lotsofpulp 7y ago
Same here. I just hope we can get assisted suicide for more situations to help ease the passing. I wouldn’t want to occupy my kids’ time if there’s no hope of independent living again.
vageli 7y ago
> I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.) > I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point. I am living this privilege and wouldn't trade it for anything. But something in you changes the first time you have to help your parent out of clothes they pooped in and into the shower. I wasn't prepared for it when it happened, but I believe it has made me stronger (and if anything, dealing with an adult with a decaying mental state feels like good practice for dealing with a teenager). I am so thankful to work in tech where my physical presence is not a necessity and so I can be more present with my family, but sadly this is not true for too many.
m463 7y ago
If you're going to do long-term care, make it easy on yourself. It can quickly become extremely taxing both mentally and physically. It may become a challenge to get the help you need - either time or finances. Spend money early on helpful tools. It is easier than you realize to get things like patient lifts, stair chairs or helpful beds. Older folks use them for a time and sell them for a pittance or give them away. A good bed can help with reading, sleeping and snoring, and there are some amazing ones that transform (as cool as autobots and decepticons) from beds into chairs that can roll around. check out https://www.hillrom.com/en-us/products/smart-beds-and-surfaces/ https://www.hillrom.com/en-us/products/smart-beds-and-surfac...

lotsofpulp 7y ago

Same here. I just hope we can get assisted suicide for more situations to help ease the passing. I wouldn’t want to occupy my kids’ time if there’s no hope of independent living again.

vageli 7y ago

> I've had the privilege of seeing my parents take care of two of my grandparents in my parents' home after my grandparents couldn't take care of themselves any more. (In one case, for their final week, in the other case, for over 5 years.) > I look forward to taking care of my parents in my home whenever they get to that point. I am living this privilege and wouldn't trade it for anything. But something in you changes the first time you have to help your parent out of clothes they pooped in and into the shower. I wasn't prepared for it when it happened, but I believe it has made me stronger (and if anything, dealing with an adult with a decaying mental state feels like good practice for dealing with a teenager). I am so thankful to work in tech where my physical presence is not a necessity and so I can be more present with my family, but sadly this is not true for too many.

m463 7y ago

If you're going to do long-term care, make it easy on yourself. It can quickly become extremely taxing both mentally and physically. It may become a challenge to get the help you need - either time or finances. Spend money early on helpful tools. It is easier than you realize to get things like patient lifts, stair chairs or helpful beds. Older folks use them for a time and sell them for a pittance or give them away. A good bed can help with reading, sleeping and snoring, and there are some amazing ones that transform (as cool as autobots and decepticons) from beds into chairs that can roll around. check out https://www.hillrom.com/en-us/products/smart-beds-and-surfaces/ https://www.hillrom.com/en-us/products/smart-beds-and-surfac...