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> If you can't grasp the difference between 'casual sex hookups' and 'dating' then I'm sorry for you I’m sorry but you can’t brush the point off that easily. T

> If you can't grasp the difference between 'casual sex hookups' and 'dating' then I'm sorry for you I’m sorry but you can’t brush the point off that easily. The difference between a date and a hookup is BS. Hookup is just a judgmental description of a short sexual relationship. E.g. Two people go on a ”date”. They have sex. They never see eachother again. Hookup, right? Except maybe they both are seeking a long term relationship, but due to sexual incompatibility or random life events they don’t end up seeing each other again. Now it seems more like a failed attempt at dating, than a hookup. Two people meet up for the purposes of a sexual encounter. They have a few drinks together, aren’t feeling it and go their separate ways without having sex. That sounds like a date. No other description fits, since they didn’t have sex. Two people meet up for a ”hookup”. It goes well, they repeat it. Two years later they are married with a kid on the way. Was there a point where it was a hookup and then it turned into serious dating? Maybe but where?

soylentcola 7y ago
My thoughts as well. A few years ago I found myself single again after a 10-year relationship went sour. The current form of online dating hadn't existed the last time I was a potential user of said services, but my experiences line up pretty well with what you outlined. I used Tinder, OKCupid, and Bumble for the most part and matched up with people with a variety of results. My general approach was to seek out potential long term relationships but didn't mind "having a little fun with Ms. Wrong while looking for Ms. Right" as the saying goes. Many of these matches went nowhere as there wasn't mutual interest. A few ended up as short term things with maybe 1-3 dates and occasionally some intimate activity. One ended up as a longer term relationship that is ongoing a few years later. None of these were specifically "hookup" apps. Two out of the three "short-term with physical intimacy" relationships were started via OKCupid (commonly seen as dating-focused) rather than Tinder (seen as hookup-focused). Yet I still had a mix of "hookups" and longer term dating.

soylentcola 7y ago

My thoughts as well. A few years ago I found myself single again after a 10-year relationship went sour. The current form of online dating hadn't existed the last time I was a potential user of said services, but my experiences line up pretty well with what you outlined. I used Tinder, OKCupid, and Bumble for the most part and matched up with people with a variety of results. My general approach was to seek out potential long term relationships but didn't mind "having a little fun with Ms. Wrong while looking for Ms. Right" as the saying goes. Many of these matches went nowhere as there wasn't mutual interest. A few ended up as short term things with maybe 1-3 dates and occasionally some intimate activity. One ended up as a longer term relationship that is ongoing a few years later. None of these were specifically "hookup" apps. Two out of the three "short-term with physical intimacy" relationships were started via OKCupid (commonly seen as dating-focused) rather than Tinder (seen as hookup-focused). Yet I still had a mix of "hookups" and longer term dating.