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In my opinion, with regards to friendship, there is simply no substitute for an in person conversation. I happily drive 6 hours to see my best friends for a wee

In my opinion, with regards to friendship, there is simply no substitute for an in person conversation. I happily drive 6 hours to see my best friends for a weekend; that's at least $70 in gas as well. FaceTime just isn't the same and I have a hard time imagining the people in my circle (the same type of people I would like to meet) spending their time trying to meet people on an app.

Mediterraneo10 7y ago
I also value in-person conversation. But my experience has increasingly been that my circle of friends is up for having dinner or whatever, but during the meal everyone is looking down at their phones and they only have half of their attention on the conversation. When your friends aren’t entirely present mentally, then even in-person meetups can make you feel lonely.
- dannyw 7y ago
  Try to get your circle of friends more engaged and present if you can.
wallacoloo 7y ago
I spent an entire year living on my own, never inviting a single other person into my home and only entering the home of another person (save for immediate family, during holiday) once. Having chat apps made that experience much more bearable and actually did lead to a handful of real-world, albeit mostly long-distance, friendships (in that I host them in town for one week out of the year and they host me for one week out of the year). At this point, I think chat apps can improve things in some ways for some people. But that year alone mostly just made me hungry for more real face-to-face bonding. Apart from the people who are well-enough off to travel, but poor enough to have no friends, I’m not sure any chat app really has a place in your social life unless creating real-world friendships is one of its primary goals and it’s designed to actually achieve that effectively.

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In my opinion, with regards to friendship, there is simply no substitute for an in person conversation. I happily drive 6 hours to see my best friends for a wee

by Invictus0 7y ago

Mediterraneo10 7y ago
I also value in-person conversation. But my experience has increasingly been that my circle of friends is up for having dinner or whatever, but during the meal everyone is looking down at their phones and they only have half of their attention on the conversation. When your friends aren’t entirely present mentally, then even in-person meetups can make you feel lonely.
- dannyw 7y ago
  Try to get your circle of friends more engaged and present if you can.
wallacoloo 7y ago
I spent an entire year living on my own, never inviting a single other person into my home and only entering the home of another person (save for immediate family, during holiday) once. Having chat apps made that experience much more bearable and actually did lead to a handful of real-world, albeit mostly long-distance, friendships (in that I host them in town for one week out of the year and they host me for one week out of the year). At this point, I think chat apps can improve things in some ways for some people. But that year alone mostly just made me hungry for more real face-to-face bonding. Apart from the people who are well-enough off to travel, but poor enough to have no friends, I’m not sure any chat app really has a place in your social life unless creating real-world friendships is one of its primary goals and it’s designed to actually achieve that effectively.