> constantly feeling like they're a failed parent because they used formula or a tablet I don't have kids but I was 8 when my sister was 0 so I like to think o

> constantly feeling like they're a failed parent because they used formula or a tablet I don't have kids but I was 8 when my sister was 0 so I like to think of myself as having seen how things go. Kids are very resilient. They'll raise themselves if they have to. Just keep them fed and sheltered and you're fine. The more you leave them to their own devices, the more confident and self-sufficient adults they'll become. Our great grandparents raised their kids by letting them run around in the fields "helping" while everyone else was working and everyone turned out just fine. You do not have to optimize every little second of their lives. It's okay for kids to struggle a little in a nurturing environment. You are not their butler.