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This is blatantly incorrect to the point of being offensive. > If the individual is responsible for her own happiness, then she is also responsible for her own

by throwaway020620 7y ago

This is blatantly incorrect to the point of being offensive. > If the individual is responsible for her own happiness, then she is also responsible for her own unhappiness Just hold right there. There was nothing about "responsibility for unhappiness" in the source that was quoted. Author just casually added this part. "Responsibility for your own happiness" just means that it's _you_ who is in control and that you actually can change things - no matter how bad they look at the moment. > It is a deeply moral message. Failing to be happy is simply immoral. If you are such an immoral and bad person that you have become unhappy — or depressed — it is you, and you alone that is to blame. Being unhappy does not make yourself a bad person. This is literally one of the first things you hear when you visit psychologist to treat your depression. > Yet the psychiatric and public discourse remain bent on treating depression as a personal problem devoid of context Incorrect. Context is incredibly important and is being discussed a lot during therapy sessions. And so on and so forth. Source: my own experience with depression. Edit: grammar

fonadesty 7y ago
> There was nothing about "responsibility for unhappiness" in the source that was quoted. I'm sort of baffled by this claim of yours. The quoted source is very clearly saying that happiness is up to the individual: > Happiness is a personal responsibility. Happiness is not something you can expect to get from others. Everybody has the key to their own happiness. And hence also the responsibility to put the key in the right lock. Likewise, I think your other points seem to miss the point of the author. She's not claiming that being unhappy makes you a bad person, she's illustrating that that's a common viewpoint in modern society, and is attempting to refute it. She also views therapy very favorably, and is trying to imagine a therapy that focuses on the collective rather than the individual.

fonadesty 7y ago

> There was nothing about "responsibility for unhappiness" in the source that was quoted. I'm sort of baffled by this claim of yours. The quoted source is very clearly saying that happiness is up to the individual: > Happiness is a personal responsibility. Happiness is not something you can expect to get from others. Everybody has the key to their own happiness. And hence also the responsibility to put the key in the right lock. Likewise, I think your other points seem to miss the point of the author. She's not claiming that being unhappy makes you a bad person, she's illustrating that that's a common viewpoint in modern society, and is attempting to refute it. She also views therapy very favorably, and is trying to imagine a therapy that focuses on the collective rather than the individual.