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The article prominently mentions partner choice, which is different than hard work. If your partner is on meth or likes to commit felonies, you probably won't

The article prominently mentions partner choice, which is different than hard work. If your partner is on meth or likes to commit felonies, you probably won't become rich soon.

turk73 7y ago
Highly intelligent, but partner choice is what cemented our wealth. I'm not sure being super smart is anything but a liability, honestly. I had terrible social anxiety for most of my youth and into my 20s. I managed to mostly break out of it by recognizing the bad patterns and working to break them. Demons? I got 'em. But am living proof that people can change.
Broken_Hippo 7y ago
Even drug abuse - or felonies - seriously differs depending on if you are rich or poor. A poor person needing rehab might only have NA to rely on because it is free and allows both parents to watch children: A rich person can likely pay for an inpatient facility and child care. Even before rehab, the poorer person's meth habit is going to take up a larger percentage of the family finances, adding additional stress. The effect of a meth habit really depends on how rich one is when it starts. A similar thing happens for felonies. IIRC, simply being poor makes it more likely that you commit felonies and more likely that you get caught for others. The richer person can do their cocaine in relative privacy, even if they are outdoors in their own yard. The poor apartment dweller doesn't have such luxuries. Divorce is also an issue: I've met multiple folks that stayed married to their partner simply because they couldn't afford the fees to get divorced, let alone think about a lawyer if they felt they needed one. Both have stress, but they have vastly different tools available to help them out with the situation.
- wayoutthere 7y ago
  Absolutely; I dealt with addiction issues some years back and I was allowed to take 6 months -- at full pay -- to sort everything out. People higher on the income scale often have more access to treatment and better safety nets to be able to make it stick. Addiction is largely a nuisance for the wealthy rather than an existential threat. I fortunately have never been arrested, but from my peers who have the troubling trend is that if you can afford a good lawyer, the DA will almost immediately plead your felony down to a misdemeanor with no jail time attached. Rich people are far less likely to suffer consequences, even if they're caught because the justice system isn't built to deal with defendants who can fight their case. The only divide in the US that matters right now is the wealth gap.
downerending 7y ago
Prior partner choice pretty much wiped out my chances of getting "rich". But then, arguably that choice wasn't very intelligent. (I'll go with the top comment, though. I suspect a lot of smart people simply don't care that much about being rich.)
- humanrebar 7y ago
  It's not orthogonal. If you are interested in bootstrapping a high income lifestyle, you won't marry a partner who is self destructive or destructive to you even.
  - downerending 7y ago
    Unfortunately, they don't all come with a label.

The article prominently mentions partner choice, which is different than hard work. If your partner is on meth or likes to commit felonies, you probably won't become rich soon.

turk73 7y ago

Highly intelligent, but partner choice is what cemented our wealth. I'm not sure being super smart is anything but a liability, honestly. I had terrible social anxiety for most of my youth and into my 20s. I managed to mostly break out of it by recognizing the bad patterns and working to break them. Demons? I got 'em. But am living proof that people can change.

Broken_Hippo 7y ago

Even drug abuse - or felonies - seriously differs depending on if you are rich or poor. A poor person needing rehab might only have NA to rely on because it is free and allows both parents to watch children: A rich person can likely pay for an inpatient facility and child care. Even before rehab, the poorer person's meth habit is going to take up a larger percentage of the family finances, adding additional stress. The effect of a meth habit really depends on how rich one is when it starts. A similar thing happens for felonies. IIRC, simply being poor makes it more likely that you commit felonies and more likely that you get caught for others. The richer person can do their cocaine in relative privacy, even if they are outdoors in their own yard. The poor apartment dweller doesn't have such luxuries. Divorce is also an issue: I've met multiple folks that stayed married to their partner simply because they couldn't afford the fees to get divorced, let alone think about a lawyer if they felt they needed one. Both have stress, but they have vastly different tools available to help them out with the situation.

wayoutthere 7y ago
Absolutely; I dealt with addiction issues some years back and I was allowed to take 6 months -- at full pay -- to sort everything out. People higher on the income scale often have more access to treatment and better safety nets to be able to make it stick. Addiction is largely a nuisance for the wealthy rather than an existential threat. I fortunately have never been arrested, but from my peers who have the troubling trend is that if you can afford a good lawyer, the DA will almost immediately plead your felony down to a misdemeanor with no jail time attached. Rich people are far less likely to suffer consequences, even if they're caught because the justice system isn't built to deal with defendants who can fight their case. The only divide in the US that matters right now is the wealth gap.

downerending 7y ago

Prior partner choice pretty much wiped out my chances of getting "rich". But then, arguably that choice wasn't very intelligent. (I'll go with the top comment, though. I suspect a lot of smart people simply don't care that much about being rich.)

humanrebar 7y ago
It's not orthogonal. If you are interested in bootstrapping a high income lifestyle, you won't marry a partner who is self destructive or destructive to you even.
- downerending 7y ago
  Unfortunately, they don't all come with a label.