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>something to the effect of that I didn't get to enjoy having friends, I just got to miss them. >I am typically watchful and quiet, on the periphery of any gro

>something to the effect of that I didn't get to enjoy having friends, I just got to miss them. >I am typically watchful and quiet, on the periphery of any group. >I have faked it and been unable to make it I know other people who moved several times as kids, and these are very common sentiments among them (and many other people as well, who didn't move). I don't have much else to say, other than you're not alone and I hope you find peace with this.

heartbeats 7y ago
Why would you find peace with being stunted and missing out on major parts of life? To be blunt, it doesn't sound like something to be enthusiastic about.
- kossae 7y ago
  Because the alternative is living your life in misery due to your past, constantly dwelling on something you can't change. People can overcome things to the best of their abilities, and it's normally good advice to at least try.
  - bsanr2 7y ago
    Some of us are stubborn enough that this is the answer. Curse the universe that afflicted me with this, and if I must suffer it, let others know, viscerally, how debilitating it is. Maybe I can be the horrible warning that sparks change. I may be miserable, but it's misery with purpose.
  - bsanr2 7y ago
    I think it would be interesting to note how many of you find this an objectionable mindset because of its self-destructiveness, compared to how many of you find it objectionable because you simply cannot stand to be reminded of the wretchedness this world is capable of. It's the difference between volunteering at a soup kitchen, and recommending the installation of those anti-homeless spikes at your building entrance.
- mstromb 7y ago
  Would being angry about it make anything better? Could it restore the missing parts, or go back in time and un-stunt a person? Being at peace with something is not the same thing as being happy about it.
- kortilla 7y ago
  Part of life is shit. Don’t spend the the good parts of life bathing in it.
- antepodius 7y ago
  So what's the best response? Endless rage? Suicide?
- zzzzzzzza 7y ago
  life has a lot of parts, major is in the eye of the beholder
Schwolop 7y ago
> I don't have much else to say, other than you're not alone and I hope you find peace with this. Thank you for saying it. The frequency with which I see positive expressions of humanity on HN is a big part of what makes this place special.

heartbeats 7y ago

Why would you find peace with being stunted and missing out on major parts of life? To be blunt, it doesn't sound like something to be enthusiastic about.

kossae 7y ago
Because the alternative is living your life in misery due to your past, constantly dwelling on something you can't change. People can overcome things to the best of their abilities, and it's normally good advice to at least try.
- bsanr2 7y ago
  Some of us are stubborn enough that this is the answer. Curse the universe that afflicted me with this, and if I must suffer it, let others know, viscerally, how debilitating it is. Maybe I can be the horrible warning that sparks change. I may be miserable, but it's misery with purpose.
- bsanr2 7y ago
  I think it would be interesting to note how many of you find this an objectionable mindset because of its self-destructiveness, compared to how many of you find it objectionable because you simply cannot stand to be reminded of the wretchedness this world is capable of. It's the difference between volunteering at a soup kitchen, and recommending the installation of those anti-homeless spikes at your building entrance.
mstromb 7y ago
Would being angry about it make anything better? Could it restore the missing parts, or go back in time and un-stunt a person? Being at peace with something is not the same thing as being happy about it.
kortilla 7y ago
Part of life is shit. Don’t spend the the good parts of life bathing in it.
antepodius 7y ago
So what's the best response? Endless rage? Suicide?
zzzzzzzza 7y ago
life has a lot of parts, major is in the eye of the beholder

Schwolop 7y ago

> I don't have much else to say, other than you're not alone and I hope you find peace with this. Thank you for saying it. The frequency with which I see positive expressions of humanity on HN is a big part of what makes this place special.