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It seems like the common factor is isolation and loneliness. I don't see why chasing either status or what you love has to necessarily entail isolating yourself
by imgabe 7y ago
It seems like the common factor is isolation and loneliness. I don't see why chasing either status or what you love has to necessarily entail isolating yourself from other people and letting social skills deteriorate. Either path could be pursued with others, and indeed would probably be helped by having friends and allies along the way.
- closeparen 7y agoThe problem is obscure preferences. Maybe 30% of the time there's someone in my world who shares them, and maybe 10% of the time we're friends. Having a community usually requires openness to activities that would not have been my first choice, or my tenth. I never used to make that trade. It's worth it, though.
- goatinaboat 7y agoIt seems like the common factor is isolation and loneliness. Traditionally it was easy to be part of a community, because humans structured society that way, because instinctively that’s important: we are mammals after all. But those traditional communities have all been eroded for various reasons. So people are lonely and desperate and aren’t clear why: after all your parents never had to “do” anything, their community was “just there”.