The narcissistic dynamics is a bit different: a narcissist pretends he is perfect and everything that is wrong is in or caused by the outside world and other pe

The narcissistic dynamics is a bit different: a narcissist pretends he is perfect and everything that is wrong is in or caused by the outside world and other people. (Deep down he is not sure of that, but is terrified to even consider that it might be possible to think to have a real look.) Now, if you're not satisfied with yourself this is very non-narcissistic. Selfish and/or autistic perhaps, but it's different. (Plus, all these are words that try to delineate rather vague concepts anyway; it's not that important to find the "right" label here, it would actually obscure the real picture.) I cannot suggest a specific approach, but I'd recommend to trust your guts on this and watch out for serendipity moments. Like picking a book that "looks at you" even if it is doesn't fit your idea of how it must be done (e.g. picking a religious book if you're not religious). Or bypassing a book store and going to a dance studio instead. I'd say it's not that common to want to change yourself like this and if you have come to this, then you have something in you that might guide you.