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Sorry but no. This will not fix narcissism. Narcissists are broken people incapable of self-reflection and everything centers around them. They see everything

Sorry but no. This will not fix narcissism. Narcissists are broken people incapable of self-reflection and everything centers around them. They see everything in the world as being put here for their enjoyment. They thrive off of attention (negative or positive) and it's the only time they feel alive.

_1100 7y ago
And yet normal people can still act narcissistically at times, and can do this more or less often at different stages of life or in different circumstances. The OP could very well be a person just realizing that they want to focus more on others and this is a completely normal stage of life that different experiences or perspectives can help with.
moopling 7y ago
It might fix what the OP has, whether or not you call that narcissism. I'd say they've already shown self-reflection by posting their question
zozbot234 7y ago
Smart people with narcissistic/dark-triad traits can practice self-reflection and seeing things from a less self-centered POV. It's just less natural to them, but they can learn to do it. They "just" have to convince themselves that it's a good idea - which is where the "smarts" factor comes in.
austincheney 7y ago
Sociopaths and psychopaths are extreme narcissists with broken brains. In the case of the sociopaths it's a learned behavior while for the psychopaths its broken hardware. This is an extreme and clinical form of narcissistic personality disorder. Aside from that the term narcissism just means self-loving. It comes from the Greek after a person named Narcissus who fell in love with the sight of his own reflection. People can experience and express variant degrees of a selfish nature without being mentally broken. To call somebody a narcissist literally means the targeted person is primarily selfish.
jshevek 7y ago
Your definition is so simple. So clear. So absolute. Nearly everyone is capable of self reflection. To think that an individual is categorically incapable of it is to deny them their humanity.
- ryder9 7y ago
  a lot of people's sense of self-reflection is skewed, i've seen people very close to me with an entirely broken sense of self reflection which usually just manifests as self-victimization it has dumbfounded me at times because I, as you, thought everyone has some sense of it and if they saw it they might change; but alas not always the case
  - jshevek 7y ago
    I agree that the quality of self reflection, and the quality of the outcome, varies. There is difference between having the ability to self-reflect, and having a proclivity to self-reflect. Neither is the same as doing so effectively, and neither speaks to the question of having a motive to make further personal changes as a result. The comment to which I was responding categorically denied certain people from having even the ability. Ever.
- darrelld 7y ago
  Have you ever met a person described as being a narcissist by the DSM-V?
nyolfen 7y ago
you should read the op
prophesi 7y ago
Have you ever seen The Good Place?
- darrelld 7y ago
  Yes, love it!
Bendingo 7y ago
> Narcissists are broken people I would add that Narcissistic Personality Disorder, like all personality disorders, is essentially unfixable [0]. However it's unlikely that OP has NPD, since someone who actually has an NPD would not be aware if it. [0] According to my psych friend.
Fnoord 7y ago
In that case [1], I can recommend a psychosis or a psychoactive drug (such as LSD). With both (though not LSD but another one which I acquired legally), I was able to self-reflect very well, and criticize myself to obliteration. The thing is, normally, I already feel like I do as well (regardless of whether I do, regardless of how other see that). It hurts too much. In the two examples I mentioned, no such pain was felt. None whatsoever. Obviously, I don't recommend one getting a psychosis, but there are benefits to it (FWIW, I had multiple, mostly short ones, and one long one). ([1] For the record, I'm indifferent and unsure about your case.)

_1100 7y ago

And yet normal people can still act narcissistically at times, and can do this more or less often at different stages of life or in different circumstances. The OP could very well be a person just realizing that they want to focus more on others and this is a completely normal stage of life that different experiences or perspectives can help with.

moopling 7y ago

It might fix what the OP has, whether or not you call that narcissism. I'd say they've already shown self-reflection by posting their question

zozbot234 7y ago

Smart people with narcissistic/dark-triad traits can practice self-reflection and seeing things from a less self-centered POV. It's just less natural to them, but they can learn to do it. They "just" have to convince themselves that it's a good idea - which is where the "smarts" factor comes in.

austincheney 7y ago

Sociopaths and psychopaths are extreme narcissists with broken brains. In the case of the sociopaths it's a learned behavior while for the psychopaths its broken hardware. This is an extreme and clinical form of narcissistic personality disorder. Aside from that the term narcissism just means self-loving. It comes from the Greek after a person named Narcissus who fell in love with the sight of his own reflection. People can experience and express variant degrees of a selfish nature without being mentally broken. To call somebody a narcissist literally means the targeted person is primarily selfish.

jshevek 7y ago

Your definition is so simple. So clear. So absolute. Nearly everyone is capable of self reflection. To think that an individual is categorically incapable of it is to deny them their humanity.

ryder9 7y ago
a lot of people's sense of self-reflection is skewed, i've seen people very close to me with an entirely broken sense of self reflection which usually just manifests as self-victimization it has dumbfounded me at times because I, as you, thought everyone has some sense of it and if they saw it they might change; but alas not always the case
- jshevek 7y ago
  I agree that the quality of self reflection, and the quality of the outcome, varies. There is difference between having the ability to self-reflect, and having a proclivity to self-reflect. Neither is the same as doing so effectively, and neither speaks to the question of having a motive to make further personal changes as a result. The comment to which I was responding categorically denied certain people from having even the ability. Ever.
darrelld 7y ago
Have you ever met a person described as being a narcissist by the DSM-V?

nyolfen 7y ago

you should read the op

prophesi 7y ago

Have you ever seen The Good Place?

darrelld 7y ago
Yes, love it!

Bendingo 7y ago

> Narcissists are broken people I would add that Narcissistic Personality Disorder, like all personality disorders, is essentially unfixable [0]. However it's unlikely that OP has NPD, since someone who actually has an NPD would not be aware if it. [0] According to my psych friend.

Fnoord 7y ago

In that case [1], I can recommend a psychosis or a psychoactive drug (such as LSD). With both (though not LSD but another one which I acquired legally), I was able to self-reflect very well, and criticize myself to obliteration. The thing is, normally, I already feel like I do as well (regardless of whether I do, regardless of how other see that). It hurts too much. In the two examples I mentioned, no such pain was felt. None whatsoever. Obviously, I don't recommend one getting a psychosis, but there are benefits to it (FWIW, I had multiple, mostly short ones, and one long one). ([1] For the record, I'm indifferent and unsure about your case.)