The good news is that you are more selfish than narcissistic. A selfish but honest person would say "I do not't care about other people getting hurt until it af

The good news is that you are more selfish than narcissistic. A selfish but honest person would say "I do not't care about other people getting hurt until it affected me." A narcissist says "It is all their fault that I got hurt and they deserve their suffering!". Call mere selfish narcissistic and "true" narcissism capital N narcissism if you like rather than fight a losing battle as a pedant vs a colloquial tide but keep in mind the personality disorder is a different animal in spite of resemblances. As others advised empathy is likely a better area of focus. The approach there varies from person to person and for a variety of reasons even unpacking the types of "empathy" cobflated together. Higher functioning sociopaths are good at reading people's emotions but don't necessarily care about them. A well socialized one does the right thing for "wrong" reasons. Someone autistic may not be in sync with sending or receiving emotions and signs but they will be upset to learn they inadvertently hurt someone. Anyway that tangent aside from someone on the spectrum here are some techniques. I tend to try to "universalize" my perspective as a view from outside. It has its own frustrations (knowing that even if you are right there is no way to outright prove that will trust) admittedly and I am not an expert in human interaction. My coping methods are more "sociological" than personal interaction level. Pitfalls include probably not being very good for your confidence - I say probably because of being uncertain what is preexisting and sample size of 1.