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I also went with moissanite. My wife (then girlfriend) was in the "2-3 months salary for a diamond" camp which I find incredibly crass. Saved $15k on the diamon
by CrazyStat 7y ago
I also went with moissanite. My wife (then girlfriend) was in the "2-3 months salary for a diamond" camp which I find incredibly crass. Saved $15k on the diamond by going with moissanite and spent a fraction of that on getting a nice custom ring + wedding band made by an independent local jeweler instead. I was happy to support a local craftsman rather than DeBeers & co.
- elcomet 7y agoDid you tell her about the nature of the stone ? That sounds like a disaster to come if she doesn't know, and she learns it by going to the jeweler to clean / repair the stone.
- joering2 7y agoCan you elaborate? You mean the fact all are synthethic (for hewlery purpose) or something else?
- CrazyStat 7y agoIf she thought I gave her an expensive diamond and then learned from a jeweler that it was in fact a moissanite I would expect her to be upset about me misleading her.
- CrazyStat 7y agoYeah I told her exactly what it was when I gave it to her. We had had several discussions prior about my feelings about the diamond industry and the surrounding social expectations, so she knew I wasn't going to get her a diamond.
- raverbashing 7y agoLife Pro-Tip: don't marry a woman that will feel unvalued by the stone in the wedding ring. Spend the money in something better and that will further the relationship, like the honeymoon.
- onetimemanytime 7y ago>>Spend the money in something better and that will further the relationship, like the honeymoon. Honeymoon's over. Ever heard that? I was thinking more in the buy a home or invest in stocks
- albertgoeswoof 7y agoBetter yet, stick it in an index tracker fund for 30 years and when you’re 60 you’ll have a million in the bank. Which you won’t spend anyway because you’ll have nothing and no one to spend it on. But smugness and pride are truly priceless.
- Infinitesimus 7y agoDid her perspective change or does she believe she got an expensive diamond?
- CrazyStat 7y agoI was upfront with her about my dislike for the diamond industry and my feelings about spending 3 months salary on a diamond. I told her that I wasn't getting her a diamond and told her exactly what it was when I gave it to her. I don't think I changed her perspective necessarily, but she knows what she got and respected my reasons for that decision. She didn't break up with me over it anyway.
- cosmodisk 7y ago2-3 months of salary for me would be a substantial contribution towards a deposit for a flat.My fiancé would smack my face if I'd spend it on a shining rock )