> By far the most useful thing for dating seems to be the ability to be in the moment That obviously varies a lot. When I am actually spontaneous, bad things h

> By far the most useful thing for dating seems to be the ability to be in the moment That obviously varies a lot. When I am actually spontaneous, bad things happen. I am able to improvise on top of a plan, but winging it is not an option. My psychologist thinks I might be on the autism spectrum. For what it's worth, while I'm far from infallible, my strategy on dating was successful enough the last two decades or so.