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I'd buy that. Disagreeable people tend to get what they want more often. The most disagreeable people tend to be men. Also luxury car drivers tend to be worse

I'd buy that. Disagreeable people tend to get what they want more often. The most disagreeable people tend to be men. Also luxury car drivers tend to be worse drivers just by driving those cars alone. https://clark.com/cars/study-expensive-cars-road-manners/ https://clark.com/cars/study-expensive-cars-road-manners/

kazinator 7y ago
Disagreeable people get what they want in the short term, but they hamper themselves in the long run. When you're disagreeable, people will tend give you what you want to get you out of their hair, but in parallel to that, their minds begin forming ideas about how to avoid or minimize future interactions with you. And that's going to have the effect of you not getting what you want from those people any more; you will have find new people to get what you want. People also talk: if you're disagreeable to someone, that will not remain a secret that is just between you and then. They will likely be sharing their experience with others, which will warn those others about interacting with you. So, if we take that into account, being disagreeable no longer seems like a clear-cut optimization of getting what you want as a long-term strategy. Thus, although the "squeaky wheel gets a greasing", we also have it that "you catch more flies with honey".
- piptastic 7y ago
  I don't think this is necessarily true. I've seen plenty of disagreeable people making it much further than their "nicer" counterparts over a longer period of time. In business, politics, etc.
  - swat535 7y ago
    That's because they usually have money, connections and resources. A homeless disagreeable person isn't going anywhere in life. Disagreeable only works when you have leverage.
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- kleer001 7y ago
  > Disagreeable people get what they want in the short term, but they hamper themselves in the long run. From what I understand "agreeableness" is personality dimension where people tend to sacrifice their immediate well being for long term gains for others on one side and the inability to sacrifice the same for the same. This, of course, is subject to their intelligence and ability to monitor and change their own behavior. One can be low on agreeableness and get along well with others.

kazinator 7y ago

Disagreeable people get what they want in the short term, but they hamper themselves in the long run. When you're disagreeable, people will tend give you what you want to get you out of their hair, but in parallel to that, their minds begin forming ideas about how to avoid or minimize future interactions with you. And that's going to have the effect of you not getting what you want from those people any more; you will have find new people to get what you want. People also talk: if you're disagreeable to someone, that will not remain a secret that is just between you and then. They will likely be sharing their experience with others, which will warn those others about interacting with you. So, if we take that into account, being disagreeable no longer seems like a clear-cut optimization of getting what you want as a long-term strategy. Thus, although the "squeaky wheel gets a greasing", we also have it that "you catch more flies with honey".

piptastic 7y ago
I don't think this is necessarily true. I've seen plenty of disagreeable people making it much further than their "nicer" counterparts over a longer period of time. In business, politics, etc.
- swat535 7y ago
  That's because they usually have money, connections and resources. A homeless disagreeable person isn't going anywhere in life. Disagreeable only works when you have leverage.
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kleer001 7y ago
> Disagreeable people get what they want in the short term, but they hamper themselves in the long run. From what I understand "agreeableness" is personality dimension where people tend to sacrifice their immediate well being for long term gains for others on one side and the inability to sacrifice the same for the same. This, of course, is subject to their intelligence and ability to monitor and change their own behavior. One can be low on agreeableness and get along well with others.