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> Very useful for dating Really? By far the most useful thing for dating seems to be the ability to be in the moment while conversing and being able to feel th
by Erlich_Bachman 7y ago
> Very useful for dating
Really? By far the most useful thing for dating seems to be the ability to be in the moment while conversing and being able to feel the flow of feelings and emotions - that's what makes a good interpersonal intimate conversation good and speeds up any dating goals one might have... Overthinking stuff, or even thinking a lot in general (while conversing) - does not.
- jlangemeier 7y agoYou missed the initial point... preparatory thinking; it's not playing out during the conversations, but before; and for many of us, allows us to actually be in the moment with a discussion because we're prepared for standard branches of the possible conversations.
- bananamerica 7y ago> By far the most useful thing for dating seems to be the ability to be in the moment That obviously varies a lot. When I am actually spontaneous, bad things happen. I am able to improvise on top of a plan, but winging it is not an option. My psychologist thinks I might be on the autism spectrum. For what it's worth, while I'm far from infallible, my strategy on dating was successful enough the last two decades or so.