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Family therapists know this stuff already. Tell her that you want to make your marriage everything it could be and more, etc, etc, and get her to a therapist, w

Family therapists know this stuff already. Tell her that you want to make your marriage everything it could be and more, etc, etc, and get her to a therapist, where she'll learn it for herself. Worked for me ;)

colanderman 16y ago
Sounds way more expensive than: "Hunny, I appreciate that you want to help me remember what needs doing, but it's overwhelming if you tell me as soon as I come home from a long day at work. I know I have a habit of forgetting, so let's make a deal: if I forget to do something come 9 PM, I'll take on one of your chores the next day. Does that sound fair to you?" Or if your SO can take the hint from humor: "If I had a nickel for every time you told me to take out the trash when I was about to do it..."
- kenjackson 16y ago
  I always thought it was "honey" -- like the stuff bees make?
  - colanderman 16y ago
    You're probably right. I think "hunny" is derived "honey" -> "hun" -> "hunny" though.
    - civilian 16y ago
      Hunny is how 'honey' is spelled in Winnie the Pooh.
      - mkramlich 16y ago
        that's because bears can't spell
        DannoHung 16y ago
        Silly old bear.
- sibsibsib 16y ago
  > "If I had a nickel for every time you told me to take out the trash when I was about to do it..." This actually happens a lot... and then you don't get the credit for doing it, because she told you to do it :/
- jobrahms 16y ago
  The other (unwritten) upside being that therapy can help with a lot of other problems too... Of course you should openly talk about it. But sometimes an appeal to authority does wonders to get the point across.
- intended 16y ago
  Sounds a lot cheaper than suffering this though: "No it doesn't sound fair!! What, you can't remember something like that either??" or "You are ALWAYS Tired, God I have to do everything, why did I marry you..." etc, etc. - Not that I hear that from anyone. Perhaps different strokes for different folk applies here? - (PS: I love you honey)

colanderman 16y ago

Sounds way more expensive than: "Hunny, I appreciate that you want to help me remember what needs doing, but it's overwhelming if you tell me as soon as I come home from a long day at work. I know I have a habit of forgetting, so let's make a deal: if I forget to do something come 9 PM, I'll take on one of your chores the next day. Does that sound fair to you?" Or if your SO can take the hint from humor: "If I had a nickel for every time you told me to take out the trash when I was about to do it..."

kenjackson 16y ago
I always thought it was "honey" -- like the stuff bees make?
- colanderman 16y ago
  You're probably right. I think "hunny" is derived "honey" -> "hun" -> "hunny" though.
  - civilian 16y ago
    Hunny is how 'honey' is spelled in Winnie the Pooh.
    - mkramlich 16y ago
      that's because bears can't spell
      - DannoHung 16y ago
        Silly old bear.
sibsibsib 16y ago
> "If I had a nickel for every time you told me to take out the trash when I was about to do it..." This actually happens a lot... and then you don't get the credit for doing it, because she told you to do it :/
jobrahms 16y ago
The other (unwritten) upside being that therapy can help with a lot of other problems too... Of course you should openly talk about it. But sometimes an appeal to authority does wonders to get the point across.
intended 16y ago
Sounds a lot cheaper than suffering this though: "No it doesn't sound fair!! What, you can't remember something like that either??" or "You are ALWAYS Tired, God I have to do everything, why did I marry you..." etc, etc. - Not that I hear that from anyone. Perhaps different strokes for different folk applies here? - (PS: I love you honey)