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"That sucks" is valid criticism for many people, as well as "who would want that?" and "why did you waste your time?". Your categories are all logical response
by RobertRoberts 7y ago
"That sucks" is valid criticism for many people, as well as "who would want that?" and "why did you waste your time?".
Your categories are all logical responses, what about the immediate emotional effects of the responses?
If you have never experienced an immediate emotional response from criticism I count you extremely lucky that you don't have to face it. But for those of us that do, we are looking for answer to the emotional side of things.
Is there some technique you have used to blunt the emotions and look at them only logically?
- matz1 7y ago>what about the immediate emotional effects of the responses? Our brain/body is good at adapting so you simply ignore it or rather embrace the pain, yes it will be painful in the beginning but the more you are exposed to it the better it will be over time.
- RobertRoberts 7y agoI suspected someone may say something like this. Is jumping in the deep end the only real answer to issues of fear or emotional turmoil? (ie, get back on the horse...) I don't disagree with you, I was just hoping there may be something else to consider.
- matz1 7y agoIs there a way to be strong without exercising ? You are right, there may be a way, I am hoping there maybe something to consider...
- incompatible 7y agoI am not immune to misguided emotional responses, but I believe I can generally recognize them for what they are, and ignore them. Especially when criticism comes from somebody you care about, like a partner, the emotional response is the strongest. But this is also the time to analyse what they are saying rationally and establish whether there's any truth in it. The emotional response seems to me to be to mindlessly defend.