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That's kind of scary. How would I know that I'm not setting myself up for failure by putting up an impossible goal like that?

mmc 16y ago
Maybe failure at something really hard wouldn't be so bad. I saw a movie once about a bike race north-south along the continental divide. Most who started quit at some point, but they didn't seem like failures to me. Anyway, good luck. I bet you won't know what you want to do with your time until you've had some time to decompress first, so maybe just start with no plan.
kareemm 16y ago
Have you considered that doing something scary might be a good thing?
- PostBurnout 16y ago
  Yes, but I've also considered that I might be a total wimp. Ugh.
  - kareemm 16y ago
    only if you choose to be.
  - rphlx 16y ago
    Negative self-talk. Stop that. Thinking it reinforces it.
  - frevd 16y ago
    I recently bought this book and it might be of help since it is explaining exactly the causes (and treatment) of negative self-talk. Not sure whether I can post recommendations here (I'm not affiliated), but since it was already recommended here at HN and just in case you want to check it out, it's called "The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play" by Neil A. Fiore, and it seems to have helped a lot of people.
DeusExMachina 16y ago
It looks to me you really have issues with failure. I think you should address them. For example, this advice tells you to do something out of reach. So you will have no chance in succeeding and failure will be to be expected. And so what? What is the problem with that? The point here is not winning. So I second the advice and tell you to do it. You need to fail and overcome your fears seeing that it's not that big deal. You have to free yourself from the burden of fear of failure.
mbesto 16y ago
You know what else is scary? Waking up in a country where you don't know if you're going to live or not that day. Count your blessings and see the world.

mmc 16y ago

Maybe failure at something really hard wouldn't be so bad. I saw a movie once about a bike race north-south along the continental divide. Most who started quit at some point, but they didn't seem like failures to me. Anyway, good luck. I bet you won't know what you want to do with your time until you've had some time to decompress first, so maybe just start with no plan.

kareemm 16y ago

Have you considered that doing something scary might be a good thing?

PostBurnout 16y ago
Yes, but I've also considered that I might be a total wimp. Ugh.
- kareemm 16y ago
  only if you choose to be.
- rphlx 16y ago
  Negative self-talk. Stop that. Thinking it reinforces it.
- frevd 16y ago
  I recently bought this book and it might be of help since it is explaining exactly the causes (and treatment) of negative self-talk. Not sure whether I can post recommendations here (I'm not affiliated), but since it was already recommended here at HN and just in case you want to check it out, it's called "The Now Habit: A Strategic Program for Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play" by Neil A. Fiore, and it seems to have helped a lot of people.

DeusExMachina 16y ago

It looks to me you really have issues with failure. I think you should address them. For example, this advice tells you to do something out of reach. So you will have no chance in succeeding and failure will be to be expected. And so what? What is the problem with that? The point here is not winning. So I second the advice and tell you to do it. You need to fail and overcome your fears seeing that it's not that big deal. You have to free yourself from the burden of fear of failure.

mbesto 16y ago

You know what else is scary? Waking up in a country where you don't know if you're going to live or not that day. Count your blessings and see the world.