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> ...and wanting to show people I still don't quite get this need to show strangers. I've had it explained to me, but I'm pretty sure it is part of a cultural

> ...and wanting to show people I still don't quite get this need to show strangers. I've had it explained to me, but I'm pretty sure it is part of a cultural shift, i.e. I'm old. Like, if stranger's approval is needed, doesn't that mean you're LESS likely to do something since it isn't guaranteed? Or maybe it is easier to start something BECAUSE there are so m any strangers willing to offer support. Either way it seems like putting success/fail in the hands of external forces. > Not wishful thinking, you'll still have to work hard to get to where you wish you were. Yeah, exactly. The accomplishments in my life with the most meaning are the hardest ones. But I don't know if that's universal. I read the book "Flow" in 1991 and it changed my life, and your quote is kinda the central thesis. : : Ironically, I planted four trees last year and three haven't started to bud yet (the fourth one is), which means I prolly killed them. Maybe still too wintry. /sigh/

JohnFen 7y ago
> I still don't quite get this need to show strangers. I've had it explained to me, but I'm pretty sure it is part of a cultural shift, i.e. I'm old. I'm a graybeard, too, and I share your lack of understanding about this. The only time that I feel it's important to "show people" stuff is when I'm wanting to learn or reinforce my own understanding of it. I've found a lot of truth to the old saw that the best way to learn something is to teach it to someone else.
- titzer 7y ago
  The shift happened gradually, then all at once. Nowadays the Instagram generation is literally obsessed with showing people everything, all the time...the bottom of the barrel being, of course, the fishface selfie, which I find infuriating. It didn't start with Facebook, but it really picked up speed. That was a platform that really penetrated into people's social circles, gave people an effortless way to post photos of themselves right from their phones, and generally created little fiefdoms of social following. We can blame platforms, and I do, a lot, but the capacity for narcissism has been latent in human nature for a long time.
neltnerb 7y ago
So, to respond seriously, I'm somewhat of an artist and I derive a lot of joy from others enjoying my pieces. I assume that's a large part of it, other people just have mediums that are more like "weird programming language tricks" or "cool math". But if someone doesn't like my piece it has very little impact on what I do next, much less my feelings at the time. Some people like stuff, some people don't. But the showing part is necessary for it to be art. You might well be right that it has to do with getting the approval of strangers (certainly a phenomena for low energy barrier stuff like posting to twitter), but I think I'd give people who put in enough time to figure out how to solve a weird new problem the benefit of the doubt that they want to share it because they find it cool and you share things you think are cool. But maybe that part of culture has changed, I've only got a little grey in my beard but I don't remember a time when my friends didn't want to show me something they found cool. Maybe the change is just that people see internet strangers as "friends they don't know yet"? I dunno, I gave up on social media because I don't think this is true on those platforms anymore. So I'd say that, hopefully, whether a stranger approves at the end of your project is besides the point, and the sharing is because you think people who share interests with you will be interested (or possible collaborators, mentors, or mentees!) and you're proud of the quality of your work. It's also useful as an online portfolio if you ever need to find a job to be able to point people at that has lots of posts of professional quality about projects you've done.
- 0xff00ffee 7y ago
  > I'm somewhat of an artist and I derive a lot of joy from others enjoying my pieces ... > I think I'd give people who put in enough time to figure out how to solve a weird new problem the benefit of the doubt that they want to share it because they find it cool and you share things you think are cool. Ah. That's a helpful way to frame it. Now that you put it that way, I think can understand it, it just seems distant. I can see that I'm not wired that way. Example: I played music in various bands for about 20 years, and for me it was about that shared experience of flow, locking in with the drummer and the guitar player and feeling like the song was in control, not us. But for other members of the band(s) it was about being on stage and hearing an audience cheer that drew them in. Same experience, totally different perception. Of course, it appears at this instant that I am sharing with you (a stranger) my thoughts (because I think they are cool). So perhaps I simply literally do understand what you are saying by evidence that I'm doing it. /head explodes/ Provocative response, neltnerb.

JohnFen 7y ago

> I still don't quite get this need to show strangers. I've had it explained to me, but I'm pretty sure it is part of a cultural shift, i.e. I'm old. I'm a graybeard, too, and I share your lack of understanding about this. The only time that I feel it's important to "show people" stuff is when I'm wanting to learn or reinforce my own understanding of it. I've found a lot of truth to the old saw that the best way to learn something is to teach it to someone else.

titzer 7y ago
The shift happened gradually, then all at once. Nowadays the Instagram generation is literally obsessed with showing people everything, all the time...the bottom of the barrel being, of course, the fishface selfie, which I find infuriating. It didn't start with Facebook, but it really picked up speed. That was a platform that really penetrated into people's social circles, gave people an effortless way to post photos of themselves right from their phones, and generally created little fiefdoms of social following. We can blame platforms, and I do, a lot, but the capacity for narcissism has been latent in human nature for a long time.

neltnerb 7y ago

So, to respond seriously, I'm somewhat of an artist and I derive a lot of joy from others enjoying my pieces. I assume that's a large part of it, other people just have mediums that are more like "weird programming language tricks" or "cool math". But if someone doesn't like my piece it has very little impact on what I do next, much less my feelings at the time. Some people like stuff, some people don't. But the showing part is necessary for it to be art. You might well be right that it has to do with getting the approval of strangers (certainly a phenomena for low energy barrier stuff like posting to twitter), but I think I'd give people who put in enough time to figure out how to solve a weird new problem the benefit of the doubt that they want to share it because they find it cool and you share things you think are cool. But maybe that part of culture has changed, I've only got a little grey in my beard but I don't remember a time when my friends didn't want to show me something they found cool. Maybe the change is just that people see internet strangers as "friends they don't know yet"? I dunno, I gave up on social media because I don't think this is true on those platforms anymore. So I'd say that, hopefully, whether a stranger approves at the end of your project is besides the point, and the sharing is because you think people who share interests with you will be interested (or possible collaborators, mentors, or mentees!) and you're proud of the quality of your work. It's also useful as an online portfolio if you ever need to find a job to be able to point people at that has lots of posts of professional quality about projects you've done.

0xff00ffee 7y ago
> I'm somewhat of an artist and I derive a lot of joy from others enjoying my pieces ... > I think I'd give people who put in enough time to figure out how to solve a weird new problem the benefit of the doubt that they want to share it because they find it cool and you share things you think are cool. Ah. That's a helpful way to frame it. Now that you put it that way, I think can understand it, it just seems distant. I can see that I'm not wired that way. Example: I played music in various bands for about 20 years, and for me it was about that shared experience of flow, locking in with the drummer and the guitar player and feeling like the song was in control, not us. But for other members of the band(s) it was about being on stage and hearing an audience cheer that drew them in. Same experience, totally different perception. Of course, it appears at this instant that I am sharing with you (a stranger) my thoughts (because I think they are cool). So perhaps I simply literally do understand what you are saying by evidence that I'm doing it. /head explodes/ Provocative response, neltnerb.