Having had 6 kids (that presumably by that stage were fully grown and flourishing) it is easy - I expect - to brush miscarriages off as no-biggie. After all, yo

Having had 6 kids (that presumably by that stage were fully grown and flourishing) it is easy - I expect - to brush miscarriages off as no-biggie. After all, you got the family you (probably) wanted so the miscarriages don't represent so much of a set back to you. If you are trying for your first child and nothing is working though, it can be absolutely crushing emotionally. You end up not just being envious of pregnant friends/colleagues/people on the street, but even being envious of fucking plants that manage to reproduce successfully when you can't. It is a very existential thing, and it is utterly consuming. I've also found that a lot of the older generations like to say "oh when I was your age we just got on with it!" (Or similar) regardless of situation, context, or emotions.