I think women (and men) need to know that miscarriages are very common and completely normal. My wife had, at least, one before each of our children (possibly a

I think women (and men) need to know that miscarriages are very common and completely normal. My wife had, at least, one before each of our children (possibly another very early one). The vast majority of the time, when they occur, it is as you say: they weren't viable in the first place. For that reason, in my mind, you aren't pregnant before about 11 weeks, and I think it is perfectly fine not to tell anyone earlier. In fact, I think it is advisable not to tell anyone earlier than that. I am sure it affects everyone to some extent, women and men, and some more than others. I would never tell anyone that what they are feeling is wrong. Just know that you are not alone, not by a long shot.