I can tell you that miscarriage messes up women that already have a kid pretty badly, we have few couples around who went though it. Of course I can't compare i

I can tell you that miscarriage messes up women that already have a kid pretty badly, we have few couples around who went though it. Of course I can't compare it to same woman without any baby at all, but this perception of "focus on positive, look you already have one healthy baby" is outsider's perspective. Kid of best effort to soothe the unsoothable.