The comment you replied to merely said don’t forget the spouse. The comparison (to my understanding) is wholly in your comment. I’m not sure why you are compa

The comment you replied to merely said don’t forget the spouse. The comparison (to my understanding) is wholly in your comment. I’m not sure why you are comparing. I’m genuinely not sure. Prior to your comment there didn’t seem to be any discussion about for whom it was more traumatic. Maybe I’m missing something? Some implied context or content?