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I have spoke to many people who have said that they feel that work has replaced their social life, myself included to a degree. It also means that people don't

I have spoke to many people who have said that they feel that work has replaced their social life, myself included to a degree. It also means that people don't want to move on in their careers as they get too comfortable with their work family and pass on better opportunities. I have a coworker who passed on a great opportunity just because he really likes working with everyone. A close friend had to be prodded by his wife to apply for better positions in other areas to advance his salary. Another friend's wife refuses to get a better job because she likes her coworkers so much.

my_usernam3 7y ago
> I have a coworker who passed on a great opportunity just because he really likes working with everyone. Correct me if I'm wrong, but your tone makes me believe you think your coworker made the wrong decision. I'm actually jealous of your coworker. Currently, if someone offered me a better career opportunity, I'd likely take it without hesitation; but I wish that weren't the case. I don't hate my current position, but I wish I loved it more to the point where leveling up, learning the newest framework, and making more money wasn't the priority. On top of that, everyone around me seems to be more focused on the trajectory of their life rather than their current situation, so I feel like its hard for me to get out of this rat race mindset.
- MisterTea 7y ago
  He did tell me directly that he regretted it later on. Though it didn't keep him up at night. I think the current tech industry rat race and churn is socially stifling in the sense that you must become nomadic and chase opportunity. By the time you settle in its time to move again. I see people working the same job at the same company with families and homes who although make less than the average tech worker, appear to me much more happy and fulfilled in life.
Jedd 7y ago
Alternative proposition. 'Moving on in your career' may be horribly overrated, or at the very least not something everyone prioritises the same way. Enjoying the work you do, and the people you do it with, and being satisfied by same, may be a sufficiently compelling reason to not engage in high-risk behaviour for the sake of 'advancing your salary'.
sunnytimes 7y ago
my ex-wife used to prod me to get a better job all the time because at the time we were a small hole in the wall company. Now we are a multi million dollar company with tons of employees and since i stayed i'm doing really well now , her on the other hand , well, bitch's trippin.

my_usernam3 7y ago

> I have a coworker who passed on a great opportunity just because he really likes working with everyone. Correct me if I'm wrong, but your tone makes me believe you think your coworker made the wrong decision. I'm actually jealous of your coworker. Currently, if someone offered me a better career opportunity, I'd likely take it without hesitation; but I wish that weren't the case. I don't hate my current position, but I wish I loved it more to the point where leveling up, learning the newest framework, and making more money wasn't the priority. On top of that, everyone around me seems to be more focused on the trajectory of their life rather than their current situation, so I feel like its hard for me to get out of this rat race mindset.

MisterTea 7y ago
He did tell me directly that he regretted it later on. Though it didn't keep him up at night. I think the current tech industry rat race and churn is socially stifling in the sense that you must become nomadic and chase opportunity. By the time you settle in its time to move again. I see people working the same job at the same company with families and homes who although make less than the average tech worker, appear to me much more happy and fulfilled in life.

Jedd 7y ago

Alternative proposition. 'Moving on in your career' may be horribly overrated, or at the very least not something everyone prioritises the same way. Enjoying the work you do, and the people you do it with, and being satisfied by same, may be a sufficiently compelling reason to not engage in high-risk behaviour for the sake of 'advancing your salary'.

sunnytimes 7y ago

my ex-wife used to prod me to get a better job all the time because at the time we were a small hole in the wall company. Now we are a multi million dollar company with tons of employees and since i stayed i'm doing really well now , her on the other hand , well, bitch's trippin.