I think you're getting downvoted because "they're doing something skeezy" and "prospective partners are free to refuse" are orthogonal. If I walk up to a rando

I think you're getting downvoted because "they're doing something skeezy" and "prospective partners are free to refuse" are orthogonal. If I walk up to a random person on the street and ask them what their credit card number is, that's questionable & skeezy, even though they can just tell me to buzz off!