When I was an engineering manager at one tech company 6 years ago, I fought like hell to get a woman who had a CS Ph.D. to join my team, and I somehow pulled th

When I was an engineering manager at one tech company 6 years ago, I fought like hell to get a woman who had a CS Ph.D. to join my team, and I somehow pulled that off. Her husband also had a CS degree (B.S. or M.S., not recall which) and worked for another tech company. Every time there was a contractor that they needed to have someone at the house for, or every time their kid got sick and/or couldn't go to school, guess which of the two of them always took the time off work to handle it? Now I had no insight into their family dynamics, and it felt it wasn't my place to pry. But over dozens of "time off" incidents through several years, it was very clear to me that my female employee was the "default caretaker" for anything relating to the house or the child that came up. This was despite the fact that she had a higher-paying position than what he had (based on what I can now see on levels.fyi).