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Why is 6 months of time dictating the entirety of childcare?

• blub 7y ago
  It's not six months, it's 9 months of pregnancy + ideally another year to recuperate, bond with the child and care for them. Children don't magically become independent when they turn 1 either, they need a lot of investment from both parents in order to develop harmoniously. Starting at this point one could wonder if fathers couldn't spend the same amount of effort as mothers. Technically they could, but by that point they probably aren't very good at some kinds of care and bonding, nor is the baby used to them in that way, unless they already did it during the first year. It's also not something that is appreciated by others, except maybe the mother, if she can get over their clumsiness and has the patience to teach them what to do. All in all, there's no benefit for the family if the fathers instead of the mothers work part time or stay at hole.
  • adjkant 7y ago
    You can work during a good deal of those nine months on pregnancy with only minor adjustments towards the second trimester. > they need a lot of investment from both parents in order to develop harmoniously Completely agreed, I said nothing against this except that the assumption that the mother had to be the one to stay home was odd. > Technically they could, but by that point they probably aren't very good at some kinds of care and bonding No citation here, this really just seems like repackaging assumptions as fact. > It's also not something that is appreciated by others, except maybe the mother, if she can get over their clumsiness and has the patience to teach them what to do. All in all, there's no benefit for the family if the fathers instead of the mothers work part time or stay at hole. I am positive many fathers and close family would beg to differ.
• deleted 7y ago
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