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One tactical approach: a high achieving woman could prioritize finding a partner who is interested in deprioritizing his own career for the sake of supporting h

One tactical approach: a high achieving woman could prioritize finding a partner who is interested in deprioritizing his own career for the sake of supporting her and raising children. This is a strategy high achieving men have used for a long time. So, pursue men involved in "child friendly" careers. Nurses instead of doctors; teacher aides over academics; tax preparers over management consultants. Or even men who are passionate about the idea of being a stay at home dad.

golemiprague 7y ago
Anybody who is doing this is going to loose his woman or at least makes her resent him and loose any attraction to him. You can write stupid articles and researches and whatever, it is not going to change the basic nature of men and women. Women job is to bring children and raise them, men job is todo the rest and until biology changes in some magical way it is not going to change. Women are still mainly attracted to care taking and value transference jobs, they don't like stem and not very good with creating value, whether it is physical or theoretical jobs, how many women music bands do you know? Even art they don't create much. Whoever wrote the article didn't ask themselves why women doctors don't leave their jobs, it is also very hard and demanding, but they like what they do because it is care taking and care taking was always the traditional job of a woman. Modern thinking demand us to ignore those simple facts and just pretend that things are different, it is just a stupid phase that will eventually disappear like communism or any another stupid ideology
jacobwilliamroy 7y ago
I think hospital work is unsuitable for people with children. Strangers spilling their blood and guts all over the place; and the hours suck rotten eggs.
ThrustVectoring 7y ago
The dating marketplace is two-sided; one reason why high-achieving men use this strategy is because there are a lot of women in this niche competing for high-achieving men. There aren't nearly as many men in this niche competing for high-achieving women, likely in part because there are relatively fewer high-achieving women using this strategy. A big part of strategy in marketplaces is choosing something that has a lot of participation so that you can find enough counter-parties to make your strategy work. There's also a biological asymmetry in terms of age and fertility. A man who is single until age 45 and then gets a lot of economic success can marry a younger woman and have children.
- scarmig 7y ago
  I'd put good money on this being a demand side issue, though I can't think of a great way to quantify it for meaningful comparisons.

golemiprague 7y ago

Anybody who is doing this is going to loose his woman or at least makes her resent him and loose any attraction to him. You can write stupid articles and researches and whatever, it is not going to change the basic nature of men and women. Women job is to bring children and raise them, men job is todo the rest and until biology changes in some magical way it is not going to change. Women are still mainly attracted to care taking and value transference jobs, they don't like stem and not very good with creating value, whether it is physical or theoretical jobs, how many women music bands do you know? Even art they don't create much. Whoever wrote the article didn't ask themselves why women doctors don't leave their jobs, it is also very hard and demanding, but they like what they do because it is care taking and care taking was always the traditional job of a woman. Modern thinking demand us to ignore those simple facts and just pretend that things are different, it is just a stupid phase that will eventually disappear like communism or any another stupid ideology

jacobwilliamroy 7y ago

I think hospital work is unsuitable for people with children. Strangers spilling their blood and guts all over the place; and the hours suck rotten eggs.

ThrustVectoring 7y ago

The dating marketplace is two-sided; one reason why high-achieving men use this strategy is because there are a lot of women in this niche competing for high-achieving men. There aren't nearly as many men in this niche competing for high-achieving women, likely in part because there are relatively fewer high-achieving women using this strategy. A big part of strategy in marketplaces is choosing something that has a lot of participation so that you can find enough counter-parties to make your strategy work. There's also a biological asymmetry in terms of age and fertility. A man who is single until age 45 and then gets a lot of economic success can marry a younger woman and have children.

scarmig 7y ago
I'd put good money on this being a demand side issue, though I can't think of a great way to quantify it for meaningful comparisons.