There is a large double standard applied here that a man who don't work is checking out of society, but a woman who does the same is a productive citizen since

There is a large double standard applied here that a man who don't work is checking out of society, but a woman who does the same is a productive citizen since she can produce babies. We wanted and most of us still want equality in the work force with both women and men equality responsible to earn their place in society. The bread winner model is cultural obsolete, even through we still behave, and given many comments here on HN, still think in those terms. A mans role culturally remain to support his children and their mother. If he doesn't do this then we declare them as checking out from society, become hikikomori, an drug addict and hedonistically waster of time. Increased rates of depression and suicides only reinforce our belief that men must fulfill their role or they will only harm themselves and others. So let me make a suggestion. Maybe it is time to change the culture.